Child custody, Please HELP!!!!?Here is my situation...
OK so please don't judge me I just need objective advice.
I want to file for custody of my daughter. The situation here is that 4 years ago I moved about 2 hours away for college, i had my daughter for the most part, but if i had an exam or something she would go down to her grandparents (her father's parents) for a few days or 2 weeks etc. During this time i paid for all of her medical bills etc, and all of her essentials, even if she was with her grandparents. Her father was around but not very often and he did not really see my daughter very much during this time frame. I graduated from college and now have a full time job. I am in a relationship with someone who was caring for my daughter during the day while I was at work. This person for some reason thought that it was OK to watch the LWord with her home, and my 4 year old is not obessed with sex. Ofcourse her paternal family called DCF on me, which i suppose to some degree is understandible, I had nothing to do with her watching the show, which my daughter told DCF and her Father told them that as well. DCF contacted me and told me that they were aware that it was not me watching the show but that my partner should be careful etc. They said they need to come and visit my daughter up at my house in Orlando, but now her paternal family is saying she needs to live down there full time or that i need to move back and that they wont let her come back to my house etc. I have obtained a very good job on my own which cares for her and supports her medical, dental, and vision insurance, and i recently enrolled her in a montessori schol but they don't want her back up here for that either... Needless to say my partner is disgusted at herself and completely repentant about what happened, but her paternal family is homophobic so ofcourse they are saying that we are going to hell etc. Her Dad has recently moved back home with his parents and does not have a substantial job but now that this has happened he is trying to gain control over the situation as if he has been around. I don't know what to do. Could i lose a custody case over the fact that my daughter was talking about inappropriate things that she saw on TV? Would i need to move out of my home that i share with my partner, etc? I am devastated over this because honestly i had NO idea that this was going on to begin with and i don't know what to do.
Posted by Brittney
They cannot take your daughter away because your partner made a mistake. Parents make mistakes all the time, they just reminded you to be careful of what your child watches and just want to check in. That is their job, and if you have a good job and a good home they will see that and write that down! If they do try to take custody DCF will have that on file and say you had a healthy environment for your child, your partner just made a mistake.
They cannot just take your child away because they do not agree with how you raise her or who you are with. As long as your child is healthy, gets her education, and has a good home they will not take her away! Also since you paid for everything while she stayed with her grandparents speaks volume. You went to college to better yourself and your child's life that is great, but then you even went as far to be responsible enough to let her stay with her grandparents during finals and even then paid for everything she needed!? Kuddos to you! That just further proves how amazing of a mom you are! Also sounds like the dad isn't taking sides which is good, if something does happen talk to him and see where he stands at that time. Maybe he will help you, maybe he won't, but if he does that would be another bonus.
Just focus on giving your daughter everything she needs. I understand how scary and hard it might be but if they do attempt to take her stay calm and don't say anything to her, and get your paperwork and documents together and you should be fine!
You're a good mom and good luck to you!
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